OKAY, I THINK I GOT IT. The 4g patch, the steam appid file and d3d9 ALL have to come from the 32bit install folder on the app.
Also i changed compatibility settings on the app to win8 and ran it in admin mode but that didn't do it by itself.
I have tried ALL the things suggested here and I STILL cannot get the advanced settings button to appear. PLEASE HELP!!!
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